Letting Go.

Letting go from someone you love could possibly be the most hopeless feeling. It's that constant knot in your stomach that will not go away. It's that feeling of desperation and anxiety. And then the question pops into your head, "why wasn't I good enough? I love him/her more than anything". Well everyone, no matter how much you love someone, you can't force them to love you back. I know that all you want to do is pretend like nothing happened and that that the person will come around, but really? They just broke your heart and the feeling was NOT mutual. I honestly don't think you even start to know who you are until you lose who you are, who you've been, and who made you the person you wanted to be. Do not be disappointed in yourself as long as you did everything possible to make a relationship work. Remember that the memories will always be in the back of your mind and you will most likely always love that person that hurt you deeply, but you loved the person they were; when they loved you with their entire heart, when they treated you with respect, and when they would've NEVER given up. If someone gives up on you, they are obviously not willing to change anything in his/her life to make the relationship work, and right then and there, a red flag should go up. Everyone deserves someone who will make sacfrices for them, and who will make the relationship mutual instead of one-sided. I said it before and I'll say it again; love doesn't change, circumstances do. If the person you love leaves you and never comes back, it was never meant to be, but if the person you love leaves you and comes back, you'll have them forever. Those were some wise words that I was given and ill hold onto then forever. We will always have hope and faith that everything will go back to the way it was before. We just need to remember that God does have a plan for us, and we still need to remember how to forgive and love even when we're so deeply hurting. Like my resident told me last night out of the blue "you'll be alright in the end". Its funny how God speaks through others. Stay strong, hold on to the good, and never look back at the bad. People change and there is nothing we can do to control it because in the end, they will look back at when they hurt you and they will regret it, but then it will be too late. 

No Regrets.

In the midst of life, we forget to be thankful for those who love us and for those we love in return. In an instant, everything we have could be gone, without getting to say our last goodbye, embrace for one last hug, or have the last kiss of our lifetime. These should be the most important aspects of our lives. At the end of the day, all that should matter is that you were thankful for every single lasting moment of life with the people who matter most to you. So forget about the bad times, the moments when you feel like you’re not going to make it, the standing moment when your heart is completely broken, when you feel like everyone has given up on you. Forget everything that made you hurt, and remember all of the good in your life. Look back every day at the times that made you smile. No day is guaranteed for any of us in this world. Try to avoid things you know you’ll regret even if they seem perfect and right at the moment. Stop holding grudges and don’t try to control things that you can’t change. You won’t be happy. There are times when we will test our faith, and there are times when faith is all we have to hold on to. You are the only person who can create a lifetime of happiness for yourself. If you try to live you life for other people, you’ll never be happy or successful. Live for you! No matter how much you love someone, you can’t force him or her to love you in return. God has a plan for you either way. There are no rules on how to love, but try setting reasonable expectations instead of expecting more than one can give. Just never settle for being taken for granted. Speak up in moments like that. There is a time for silence, and there is a time to speak up and say how we’re feeling. It is ok to cry. It is ok to be sad. Sometimes this is the only way we heal. I think we all need to just slow down in our busy lives and think about how we can change to better ourselves, how we can better each other, and how we can become stronger than we were yesterday. I will say one thing, however, never give up on what and whom you believe in. If it’s true that we only are given one life to live, there is no such thing as loving too much, laughing too much, or forgiving too easily. Stay Strong Everyone. 

XOXO,

Abbey